Reflection of Day 5
Questions for Day 5
- What things did your spouse point out about you that need your attention
- How did you handle hearing it ?
- What do you plan to do to improve in these areas?
Yesterday's Dare (07/03/20); I didn't feel comfortable asking my spouse to tell me three things that cause him to be uncomfortable or irritated with me. I guess I already know those answers based on prior conversations that him and I have had with one another. I do know that one thing that really bothers him is when I want him to check in with me when he gets to work or throughout the day. I worry easily and that is something that I am working on. Another thing that I know irritates him is when he comes home from work and the house is in chaos. I have also been doing good and ensuring that the house is staying clean and that I continue with my normal "wife / mom" duties that way when comes home the house is in calm without any chaos.
Overall this day was a good day. We did have a mishap during the evening. Lorenzo was working on his car and the radiator water blew at 200* all over his forearm. He was in so much pain and it broke my heart. However, my loving and "motherly" side kicked in and I went into overdrive to make sure that he was taken care of. I got him water and bandages for his burn and then eventually I took him into the hospital where the Dr's were very impressed with how well I dressed his burn up. I must say, internally, I was very pleased and happy with myself. Throughout the night I did ask him if he needed anything and if he did to let me know. Besides that accident, the night was very good and he definitely was showing love towards me.
I know that when he has told me things that upset him, I feel like I want to get in defense mode and put the blame back on him. But I have learned to listen with my ears and not respond in a harsh way. I listen to everything he says and then I reflect on it. I can't ask him to change, he has to be willing to. So I will be working on myself on the changes that I feel like I need to make.
- What things did your spouse point out about you that need your attention
- How did you handle hearing it ?
- What do you plan to do to improve in these areas?
Yesterday's Dare (07/03/20); I didn't feel comfortable asking my spouse to tell me three things that cause him to be uncomfortable or irritated with me. I guess I already know those answers based on prior conversations that him and I have had with one another. I do know that one thing that really bothers him is when I want him to check in with me when he gets to work or throughout the day. I worry easily and that is something that I am working on. Another thing that I know irritates him is when he comes home from work and the house is in chaos. I have also been doing good and ensuring that the house is staying clean and that I continue with my normal "wife / mom" duties that way when comes home the house is in calm without any chaos.
Overall this day was a good day. We did have a mishap during the evening. Lorenzo was working on his car and the radiator water blew at 200* all over his forearm. He was in so much pain and it broke my heart. However, my loving and "motherly" side kicked in and I went into overdrive to make sure that he was taken care of. I got him water and bandages for his burn and then eventually I took him into the hospital where the Dr's were very impressed with how well I dressed his burn up. I must say, internally, I was very pleased and happy with myself. Throughout the night I did ask him if he needed anything and if he did to let me know. Besides that accident, the night was very good and he definitely was showing love towards me.
I know that when he has told me things that upset him, I feel like I want to get in defense mode and put the blame back on him. But I have learned to listen with my ears and not respond in a harsh way. I listen to everything he says and then I reflect on it. I can't ask him to change, he has to be willing to. So I will be working on myself on the changes that I feel like I need to make.
Day 6: Love is Not Irritable |
Today's Goals
Happy Fourth of July! Today should be a good day. We have all of our kids with us and I am hoping that we all get to get out of the house and do a family day, because Lord knows we need it. I am going to try to incorporate previous dares into today's goals. I will be quick to listen but slow to speak.